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    • Introduction / Life / Housing
    • 2024/05/31 (Fri)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

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    [Homeowners 55+ must see 👀] ≪ PROP 19 ≫ ★ California Real Estate ★

    ✨ Prop 19 will be carried out ✨

    This program is for homeowners over 55 years old, people with disabilities, and people whose homes were destroyed by a natural disaster. It allows you to transfer the Tax Base of your current home to your next home when you buy a new home.

    Features include

    ・ Anywhere in California
    ・ Any price
    ・ Current property taxes can be transferred to the next home.
    ・ Can use it up to 3 times { Used to be only once } ( More if you lost your house in a fire )



    *For more information, consult a tax professional or attorney !

    Free consultation for all real estate matters

    • Useful info / Life / Housing
    • 2024/05/30 (Thu)
    Vivinavi Las Vegas

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    Las Vegas ~ Please feel free to contact Kaori Inoue at Urban Nest Real Estate for any questions regarding Henderson real estate.

    We have made the impossible possible through serious free screenings and counseling, even with clients who have given up on the idea that they could ever sell or buy.
    We will work hard for our clients no matter how difficult the problem, so please feel free to contact us with any questions or concerns you may have.

    Mortgage preliminary screening is provided by a bilingual senior loan officer who speaks Japanese and provides free consultation.

    Phone : 1-702-355-8050
    Email : kaori@lasvegas-fudosan.com
    Please feel free to contact us anytime in Japanese.

    • Useful info / Finance / Insurance
    • 2024/05/24 (Fri)
    Vivinavi Seattle

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    Must See ! ! For First Time Home Buyers in California ! !

    About CalHFA]

    CalHFA is a program that helps first-time homebuyers to make buying easier.
    It provides loans for down payment ( Down Payment ) and other expenses ( necessary to make the loan ) Closing Cost .

    And this part of the loan does not have to be repaid until you sell the house or do a loan modification ( Refinance ).
    ( Silent Second ) which is designed to make it easier to pay with lower monthly payments.

    The first condition for borrowers is Primary Residence Only, which can only be used to purchase a house to live in.
    And the borrower must be a First Home Buyer ( who has not been a homeowner for at least the past three years ).

    There are income limits by County.
    ( Income Limit ) Must take Home buyer Education Counseling and obtain Certificate.

    [How To Apply]
    Apply only through a Mortgage Broker or Lender that handles CalHFA.
    Documents to be submitted are the same as for other loans.
    ( Pay Stubs, Bank Statement, Tax Return, Employment History, etc. )

    First Mortgage is a Government Loan ( FHA, VA, USDA or Conventional Loan.

    Saving for a down payment can be a challenge. The part of the loan that serves as the down payment is the second mortgage, where the first and second loans are combined together,
    but as I mentioned before, you only need to make the first mortgage ( payment ) payment .

    CalHFA Goverment Loan ( FHA ) would be supported by this program for 3 . 5% ( of the purchase price or the lower of the appraisal value ).
    CalHFA Conventional Loans are supported at 3%.

    Closing Cost Assistance Program is called Zip.

    It is of course possible to get both this and a down payment, but the first mortgage rate will increase by about 1 . 25%.
    This would increase your monthly repayments, so you would need to do a detailed calculation with your loan officer to determine this.

    Even if you purchase through one of these programs, this will not drag on for years, and
    California has a higher real estate appreciation rate than the rest of the country, so in 2 , 3 years you will have Equity and be able to refinance your loan!

    Refinancing will also allow you to eliminate things like Mortgage Insurance that you had to pay because of a small down payment.
    While you are saving up for a down payment, the price of real estate will go up and up. It may be a good time to consider the buying options discussed here.

    There are many things about loans that are not clear.
    In such cases, please leave it to Mitsuko Miller.
    We provide accurate information so that Japanese people do not lose money without understanding about loans.

    Please feel free to contact us.

    ■ Director's Mgagee ≪ Mitsuko Miller∩ )
    She has worked as a loan officer since 1993. Licensed in California, Oregon and Washington. Has clients throughout the U.S. and can respond to inquiries from Japan.

    14405 SE 36th Street, Suite 206, Bellevue, WA, 98006 US
    TEL : +1 (206) 679-3371

    If we are unable to answer your call, please use the "Send Message" below. If we are unable to answer your call, please contact us by clicking on "Send message" below.

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    Currently this program is a lottery and we are not sure about the next one.
    We look forward to working with you to prepare for the next one ? Please feel free to contact us !

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    • Introduction / Life / Housing
    • 2024/05/23 (Thu)
    Vivinavi Seattle

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    Feel free to contact us for all your real estate needs in the Seattle area.

    Hello, I am Monko Tronson, a real estate agent.
    We can help you with real estate in the Seattle area as well as introduce you to reliable banks, service companies, etc.
    We cover a wide range of areas from north to south and can help you maximize your profit with minimum expense according to your individual situation ! We can also offer tours if you are coming from other states or Japan. Please feel free to contact us !

    - Full service listing with a competitive 1.5% commission on the sale ! ! -
    ・ Professional photography, advertising and video of the sale, negotiations
    ・ Services necessary for the sale, advice on repairs, etc.
    ・ rebates for sale/purchase packages
    ・ personal counseling available


    We welcome those looking for investment properties from Japan, or those thinking of moving here from Japan.
    If you have any questions, please feel free to contact us. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact us anytime.

    Please contact us !

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    ≪ Profile
    Ayako Tronson (Tronson Monko) ) ・ Washington State Certified Real Estate Agent

    Born in Hiroshima, Japan. After graduating from Souai University with a degree in Humanities, she studied graphic design at the Art Institute of Seattle, graduating in 2000. After graduation, he started his own online sales company with his partner. She was in charge of designing advertisements, taking and shipping orders, conducting market research, and consulting with clients on their online stores for both domestic and international markets. Later, he became interested in becoming a real estate agent, using his skills in promotion, ad design, and the importance of client relationships. In King, Pierce, and Snohomish counties over the past 4 years, he has personally handled over 165 properties and his team has handled over 200 properties.
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    [Contact]
    Ayako Tronson/ BHGRE Macy&Co TEL: 425-681-4165
    Email: ayako@macyandco.com

    • Wanted / Education / Lesson
    • 2024/06/10 (Mon)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

    This text has been translated by auto-translation. There may be a slight difference between the original text and the translation. (Original Language: 日本語)

    🏫2-4 year olds, 2 ・ per week, 3 ・ per week, 5 per week, preschoolers wanted 🌸.

    🍯🍯Honey 🍯(2yrs old only🍯)Morning Course🍯

    🍀Children who have never been in a group yet
    🍀Children who are not sure about a full day course but want to try a half day course

    🍀Parents who want to give their children the challenge of activities that they cannot do at home
    🍀Parents who are looking for a small group of children who need more intensive care

    🐝We also offer training for children with language delays 🐝


    [From 2 years old]
    《Day Care Course / Mon 9 : 00 ~ 3 : 00》

    5 days a week $ 1100
    3 days a week $ 790
    2 days a week $ 560

    《After class included / Mon 9 : 00 - 5 : 00》
    5 days a week $ 1200
    3 days a week $ 870
    2 days a week $ 620

    *Before toilet training is completed, a monthly toilet training fee is added.
    5 days a week $ 50, 3 days a week $ 30, 2 days a week $ 20

    Tours are available ‼️
    Please feel free to contact us.

    Instagram → honeybee328daycare

    June enrollment students "saw Vivinavi ‼️" for 10% off the first month ‼️

    • Discount / Life / Housing
    • 2024/06/08 (Sat)
    Vivinavi Hawaii

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    Now 15% discount on air conditioner filter cleaning ・ installation: ‼️

    How about cleaning the filter of your air conditioner before summer ⁉️
    Now we offer 15% discount for filter cleaning ・ installation of air conditioner ‼️
    Limited time offer until the end of June !


    If one of the above applies, request cleaning !

    ・ You should have your air conditioner cleaned ? Check

    ・ It has been more than 2 years since you bought your air conditioner

    ・ You have never

    ・ The filter of the air conditioner has not been cleaned for more than a year

    ・ Black spots appear on the air conditioner outlet

    ・ The air conditioner seems noisy

    Cleaning is recommended for summer.




    If you have bought a new house,

    or if you have renovated your house,

    please contact us. Please contact us ‼️

    for a free estimate ‼️


    We also provide services in Japanese, so please do not worry !.

    Discount

    Estimate $ 100, now free !.

    • Event / Group / Organization
    • 2024/06/07 (Fri)
    Vivinavi San Diego

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    Cultural Exchange : Meet people who want to meet real English, speak Japanese once in a while, and make new friends!

    NPO "Aikizuna Service Center (former Aikizuna Kai)" has been holding a popular "Cultural Exchange", a place for international exchange between Japanese and foreigners, every Thursday from 6:00 p.m. at Convoy Area (detailed time ・ location see below).

    This gathering has been going on since the days of the Aikinkai, but we had to take a break for a while due to the Corona. However, it resumed in May last year. When it was reopened, it was only those who used to participate regularly during the Aikinkai era, but recently new people have started to join, and we have been having a lot of fun every week. A wide range of people, from students to people with gray hair, have participated, making it a mixing of Japanese and American people of all ages. The conversation is a mixture of Japanese and English, and the laughter never ends. I want to speak Japanese once in a while, I want to improve my English conversation skills, I want to make new friends, etc. Everyone has their own ideas. Everyone has their own ideas and thoughts about what they want to do. If you are interested, please come and join us ! We are looking forward to seeing you ! You can join or leave during the class without any problem.

    The outline is as follows.

    Anyone who wants to speak English, Japanese, or make Japanese or American friends is welcome to join us. !
    There are many people studying English and Japanese, but can they actually use the language they have learned? We have decided to start a group where you can use English and Japanese freely. We aim to create an environment where you can talk among friends, unlike in class.
    Date and Time :
    Every Thursday at 6pm ~ 8pm
    Location :
    Sul&Beans/ Somi Somi (former Caffe Bene)
    4620 Convoy St
    San Diego, CA 92111 San Diego, CA 92111
    No charge to attend. Bring your children.

    There is also a Culture Exchange Facebook page. We post information about the event from Wednesday night to about noon on Thursday. We recommend checking it before you leave home, especially if you are coming from far away.
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/culturalexchangesd/

    Contact:
    Aizuna Service Center
    858-380-5899
    info@ azunaservicecenter.org

    • Useful info / Life / Housing
    • 2024/06/07 (Fri)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

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    5 tips for selling a vacant house!

    How to Maintain a Vacant House When Selling

    https://youtube.com/shorts/HPzLpFUXD_I?si=ch9YqyJGzHATascC

    • Wanted / Education / Lesson
    • 2024/06/07 (Fri)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

    This text has been translated by auto-translation. There may be a slight difference between the original text and the translation. (Original Language: 日本語)

    🏫2-4 year olds, 2 ・ per week, 3 ・ per week, 5 per week, preschoolers wanted 🌸.

    🍯🍯Honey 🍯(2yrs old only🍯)Morning Course🍯

    🍀Children who have never been in a group yet
    🍀Children who are not sure about a full day course but want to try a half day course

    🍀Parents who want to give their children the challenge of activities that they cannot do at home
    🍀Parents who are looking for a small group of children who need more intensive care

    🐝We also offer training for children with language delays 🐝


    [From 2 years old]
    《Day Care Course / Mon 9 : 00 ~ 3 : 00》

    5 days a week $ 1100
    3 days a week $ 790
    2 days a week $ 560

    《After class included / Mon 9 : 00 - 5 : 00》
    5 days a week $ 1200
    3 days a week $ 870
    2 days a week $ 620

    *Before toilet training is completed, a monthly toilet training fee is added.
    5 days a week $ 50, 3 days a week $ 30, 2 days a week $ 20

    Tours are available ‼️
    Please feel free to contact us.

    Instagram → honeybee328daycare

    June enrollment students "saw Vivinavi ‼️" for 10% off the first month ‼️

    • Free trial / Life / Housing
    • 2024/06/07 (Fri)
    Vivinavi Kisarazu

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    Housing Exhibition Hall Event Information ✨.

    Hello🤩
    I am the event manager at Kisarazu Housing Park 🏘️

    Free event starts tomorrow 🎃
    We have many nice model houses, so you will find your favorite house ✨

    We are looking forward to seeing you😍

    • Useful info / Life / Housing
    • 2024/06/06 (Thu)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

    This text has been translated by auto-translation. There may be a slight difference between the original text and the translation. (Original Language: 日本語)

    Three reasons why real estate values are declining

    Your house falls under ?.

    free consultation

    • Problem solution / Life / Housing
    • 2024/06/06 (Thu)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

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    Construction ・ We can do your remodeling ! Bathroom remodel, water, electrical, etc. problems !

    Los Angeles Architecture ・ Leave your remodeling to Group Okuno.
    Bold and delicate finish work, the final result is the difference !

    We know you spend more time at home these days
    Why not review your home once and get a more comfortable life at home ?

    Bathrooms ・ Kitchens ・ RECESS LIGHT ・ Gates ・ Cement ・ PAVER ・ Flooring ・ Tiles ・ Framing ・ Paint ・ WALL and more

    Architecture ・ Leave your remodeling to us ! !

    >> commitment <<
    -------------
    ✓ Bold and delicate construction work.
    ✓ Finish work with attention to detail. The final result is different.
    ✓ No outsourcing whatsoever. Leave everything to us.

    >> Our strength <<
    -------------
    ① Over 25 years experience, zero complaints
    We have never received any complaints from our customers.
    Many of our customers have been satisfied with our services and have referred us to new customers in many cases.
    For more than 20 years, we have received renovation requests only by word of mouth from our customers.

    ② All of our staff are Japanese
    You can feel free to consult with us in Japanese.

    ③ Our team of skilled professionals
    only work with staff trusted by our customers and approved by us.

    Please feel free to call us first ! (310) 806-2918

    • Wanted / Education / Lesson
    • 2024/06/05 (Wed)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

    This text has been translated by auto-translation. There may be a slight difference between the original text and the translation. (Original Language: 日本語)

    🏫2-4 year olds, 2 ・ per week, 3 ・ per week, 5 per week, preschoolers wanted 🌸.

    🍯🍯Honey 🍯(2yrs old only🍯)Morning Course🍯

    🍀Children who have never been in a group yet
    🍀Children who are not sure about a full day course but want to try a half day course

    🍀Parents who want to give their children the challenge of activities that they cannot do at home
    🍀Parents who are looking for a small group of children who need more intensive care

    🐝We also offer training for children with language delays 🐝


    [From 2 years old]
    《Day Care Course / Mon 9 : 00 ~ 3 : 00》

    5 days a week $ 1100
    3 days a week $ 790
    2 days a week $ 560

    《After class included / Mon 9 : 00 - 5 : 00》
    5 days a week $ 1200
    3 days a week $ 870
    2 days a week $ 620

    *Before toilet training is completed, a monthly toilet training fee is added.
    5 days a week $ 50, 3 days a week $ 30, 2 days a week $ 20

    Tours are available ‼️
    Please feel free to contact us.

    Instagram → honeybee328daycare

    June enrollment students "saw Vivinavi ‼️" for 10% off the first month ‼️

    • Useful info / Education / Lesson
    • 2024/06/04 (Tue)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

    This text has been translated by auto-translation. There may be a slight difference between the original text and the translation. (Original Language: 日本語)

    English Conversation] Yoko-sensei's "One Phrase to Get Closer to Native English Speakers" ! ! # 5

    Yoko-sensei's "Short Phrases to Remember"
    Here are some phrases that are simple, but when it comes time to say them in English, you'll say "Eh ?" !
    Let's go around using one phrase a week !
    Try to use it everyday. If you do, it will become your expression😊


    ⭐️ Level Up English Conversation ⭐️
    I'm down. Used when you agree with a proposal made by the other person. It is a casual way of saying "I'm down.
    _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ <2866> _ _ _ _ _ _ _

    I agree.



    ▶ ️ let's go to Hollywood tonight ?
    A : let's go to Halloywood tonight? ?
    B: I'm down. it's fine.


    Other ways to use it instead of Yep. Yes. You can also say Yeah elsewhere.
    Heck, Yeah!
    Sure thing. of course.


    ◀ ️ Do you want to tag along with us? Come with us ?
    Heck, yeah!

    * tag along = tag along with us


    ▶ ️ You are heading for Mike's house, huh? You are going to Mike's house ?
    Yep. That's right.

    * heading for ~ ・ going
    * huh? When you know what they are going to do.


    BYB is a school where speaking English is fun ⬇️

    [English continues because it's fun. English will improve. !

    Since its opening in 1985, BYB English Center has continued to offer one-on-one English lessons to students of all ages, with the goal of
    meeting each student's needs as thoroughly as possible. We continue to offer one-on-one lessons to students of all ages.
    BYB's One-on-One lessons are tailored to the level and needs of each student, so that
    students can learn what they want to learn without wasting time.

    Please contact us for more information !!

    • Useful info / Life / Housing
    • 2024/06/04 (Tue)
    Vivinavi Kimitsu

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    Introduction of a system to increase the insulation performance of your home's windows using government subsidies to counter rising electricity costs.

    Hello !

    It's finally June, the last month of the second half of the year.

    The rainy weather is increasing and I tend to feel depressed, but I am healed by the quietness of the hydrangea extending from the hedge of the house on my way to the office on foot. 



    Have you heard about the subsidy program called "Advanced Window Renovation Project"?

    The Ministry of the Environment offers a subsidy of up to 2 million yen for construction work to improve the thermal insulation performance of your windows.
    (The subsidy does not cover the full amount of the construction cost. \cH0000000000}
    There are several eligible construction methods, the most standard of which is to install a new window inside an existing window.

    Since this program started in March this year, we have already done the work for three customers in Kisarazu, Ichihara, and other cities for the Window Renovation Project, and all of them requested the installation of internal windows on the existing windows mentioned above. One of our customers said, "The air conditioner works much better after this installation." We are very happy with the results.

    With the news of further increase in electricity bills from this month, many of you may be concerned about saving energy ・ by saving electricity from air conditioners.

    Prices ・ As a long-term measure against soaring utility costs, you may want to consider installing insulation performance improvements using government subsidies.


    Note that this program ends at the end of December, but will end earlier as soon as the government budget is exhausted.

    As for the complicated subsidy application procedures, we will take care of everything after the construction is completed.

    For more details, please visit the Ministry of the Environment's Window Renovation website (https://window-renovation2024.env.go.jp/) or contact us at

    Tada: 070-1478-9876 !



    [Total ・ Support ・ Service]
    1-3-22 Nishisakada, Kimitsu, Chiba
    TEL: 0439-54-3880 / FAX: 0439-54-3881 0439-54-3881
    Contact cell phone: 070-1478-9876(Tada)
    Home page: https://tss2016.com

    • Signature service / Life / Housing
    • 2024/06/04 (Tue)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

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    Let Hitomi Gruenberg help you find real estate in San Diego !.

    < If you are looking for a house >
    ・ If you are in Japan and interested in overseas real estate investment
    ・ If you are looking for a second home in San Diego
    ・ If you are buying property in San Diego and looking for a manager
    First time home buyers
    ・ Of course, those looking for their own home

    < Those looking to sell their home >
    Many customers result in sales above listing price.
    Customers who are still not sure whether they want to sell or not, please feel free to contact us.
    If you want to know how much your house is worth now, please feel free to contact us.


    Please feel free to contact us !
    310-525-0615

    • Signature service / Life / Housing
    • 2024/06/04 (Tue)
    Vivinavi San Diego

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    Let Hitomi Gruenberg help you find real estate in San Diego !.

    < If you are looking for a house >
    ・ If you are in Japan and interested in overseas real estate investment
    ・ If you are looking for a second home in San Diego
    ・ If you are buying property in San Diego and looking for a manager
    First time home buyers
    ・ Of course, those looking for their own home

    < Those looking to sell their home >
    Many customers result in sales above listing price.
    Customers who are still not sure whether they want to sell or not, please feel free to contact us.
    If you want to know how much your house is worth now, please feel free to contact us.


    Please feel free to contact us !
    310-525-0615

    • Wanted / Education / Lesson
    • 2024/06/03 (Mon)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

    This text has been translated by auto-translation. There may be a slight difference between the original text and the translation. (Original Language: 日本語)

    🏫2-4 year olds, 2 ・ per week, 3 ・ per week, 5 per week, preschoolers wanted 🌸.

    🍯🍯Honey 🍯(2yrs old only🍯)Morning Course🍯

    🍀Children who have never been in a group yet
    🍀Children who are not sure about a full day course but want to try a half day course

    🍀Parents who want to give their children the challenge of activities that they cannot do at home
    🍀Parents who are looking for a small group of children who need more intensive care

    🐝We also offer training for children with language delays 🐝


    [From 2 years old]
    《Day Care Course / Mon 9 : 00 ~ 3 : 00》

    5 days a week $ 1100
    3 days a week $ 790
    2 days a week $ 560

    《After class included / Mon 9 : 00 - 5 : 00》
    5 days a week $ 1200
    3 days a week $ 870
    2 days a week $ 620

    *Before toilet training is completed, a monthly toilet training fee is added.
    5 days a week $ 50, 3 days a week $ 30, 2 days a week $ 20

    Tours are available ‼️
    Please feel free to contact us.

    Instagram → honeybee328daycare

    June enrollment students "saw Vivinavi ‼️" for 10% off the first month ‼️

    • Useful info / Life / Housing
    • 2024/06/03 (Mon)
    Vivinavi Los Angeles

    This text has been translated by auto-translation. There may be a slight difference between the original text and the translation. (Original Language: 日本語)

    3 Things I Learned at Feng Shui School About Bedrooms 🛏 [LA ・ OC ・ RS ・ SB Real Estate

    Hello, my name is Tokimi Matsumo, Los Angeles Real Estate Services.
    I am actually a certified Feng Shui appraiser.

    Today we are going to talk a little bit off the subject of buying or selling a house, but I thought I would share a few things that
    might be helpful when thinking about bedroom furniture placement.

    The bedroom is an important place because it is where you spend the majority of your life.

    There are actually several schools or teachings of Feng Shui, so
    opinions are sometimes divided, but here I will share some of what I learned in my
    Feng Shui school.

    1 . Shape of bedroom
    rectangle or square is best
    triangular or odd shaped rooms
    should not be used as a bedroom.

    2 . Number of mirrors ( Placement )
    Lots of mirrors should not be placed in a bedroom.
    Especially not in front of the bed.

    This is not very good for your mood
    and from there you may end up
    harming your health.

    Waking up in the middle of the night in the dark
    and seeing my reflection in front of me
    might be a little weird.

    3. Bed position
    The head of the bed should be against the wall.
    In short, it is not a good idea to have the bedding in the
    middle of the room.

    Do not place the bed in the
    doorway when the bedroom door is opened.



    That's all for today anyway.

    You may not be able to arrange the furniture
    in the ideal way depending on the layout, but
    there is no such thing as a perfect house
    anyway, so don't worry about it.

    Free consultation for all real estate matters

    • Useful info / Professional
    • 2024/06/01 (Sat)
    Vivinavi New York

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    Why do people do moral harassment? The surprising truth is …

    Moral harassment ( There are a wide variety of reasons for perpetrators of moral harassment ) but what reasons do you imagine?

    Perhaps you think of them as "bossy" because they are "bossy", "overconfident", or "look down on others".

    Of course, such an image is not wrong. However, what is surprisingly unknown is the "weak" side of the harasser.

    Today, I will tell you five characteristics of the harasser including such a weak side.

    ① The Desire to Control

    The harasser tries to gain a sense of superiority and security by dominating and controlling the other person.
    This means, on the flip side, that they need to control people to feel superior and secure.
    In other words, the moralizing appears as a way of coping with instability and uncertainty of the self.

    ② Insecurity and inferiority of self

    People with internal insecurity and inferiority tend to try to enhance their self-worth by putting others down.
    This is a kind of defense mechanism to distract from one's own problems.
    For example, a husband who failed his college entrance exams and did not get into a top university may lash out at his wife, who graduated from a less prestigious university than him,
    saying things like, "You are stupid.

    ③ The family environment in which they were raised

    has no small influence on their past experiences.
    For example, if one's father is a harasser of his mother, the probability that his son will become a harasser husband is much higher.
    From an early age, they learn the wrong kind of marital relationship, and naturally learn that it is okay for husbands to be bossy with their wives, and that it is okay to subdue their wives with abusive language and behavior.
    Also, people who grew up with abusive parents may not resolve the trauma and may express it as their own moral harassment.

    ④ Socio-cultural influences
    In some societies and cultures, dominant behavior and control of others is a symbol of "strength," and this can encourage moralizing behavior.
    Without fear of prejudice, I can tell you from my past experience that, for example, construction workers
    still have a workplace culture where language is abusive and senior workers strictly supervise junior workers.

    Also, people in professions called "teachers," such as lawyers and doctors, often have a tendency to be moral harassers.
    Lawyers, in particular, have to mount their opponents.
    So, even at home, they mistakenly think that they are great and that they are teachers.

    ⑤ Lack of Emotional Control
    Some people say that harassers act very calmly and do not "lose their temper ・ ・" or "lose their temper ・ ・" He says that he never does this.
    However, it often feels as if the harasser lacks the ability to properly control his or her emotions and tries to vent them by directing anger and frustration at others.

    Nowadays, a harasser can be a victim or a perpetrator itself, regardless of gender.
    I suggest that you take another look at your own marital relationship.

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