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• きりぞう
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• 2026/09/17 16:20

My mother has dementia. It’s quite severe, and she can’t remember anything for even a minute.
I’m posting this in the hope that anyone with experience living with a mother who has dementia might be able to offer advice or insights. Thank you in advance.

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#2

• Baikinman
• 2026/09/18 (Fri) 21:55
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Kirizo-san,

I’m in my late senior years, too, and I’m starting to show a few signs of “dementia.”

Does your mother have severe dementia? That must be really tough.

I hope someone in a similar situation reads this thread—I wonder if there’s anyone out there.


Is there anyone out there? ？ ？ ？

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#3

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• 2026/09/20 (Sun) 13:02
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After my friend retired, his wife was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease.
In the early stages, there weren’t many problems, but as the disease progressed, she began wandering around the neighborhood and was taken in by the police several times, so we installed an interior lock on the door to prevent her from going out alone.

Eventually, she lost control of her bladder and bowels, so he had to put her in diapers and, when she soiled herself, carry her to the bathtub to wash her. It looked so difficult that I suggested he place her in a care facility, but but no matter how advanced his dementia was, there were times when he would return to his normal self. He feared we had abandoned him during those moments, and if we placed him in a facility, he would likely pass away within a few months to a year. So he refused to listen, insisting he wanted to care for him himself and see him off.
After that, he had a nursing bed installed at home through his insurance provider, Kaiser, and would go over to help whenever he needed assistance.

I’d sent four children to college, so I had no financial leeway and was constantly working.
Since I’d left everything related to the children and the household to my wife, and hadn’t really repaid her for all she’d done, I told her I’d do everything I could to care for her. A few years later, my wife passed away.
Watching her, it seemed less like she was truly alive and more like she was simply being kept alive; when she passed away, he said he had no regrets because he’d done everything he could, but I felt that I could never do the same.

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• Baikinman
• 2026/09/27 (Sun) 19:29
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Sunshine,

That friend of yours is a wonderful person. I wonder if I could do something like that...

In our household, it’s the other way around—I’m starting to lose my mind, and sometimes I end up being a burden to my wife.

I “forget” things every now and then, and my wife—who’s a feisty one—gives me a real earful, but

since there’s nothing I can do about it, she puts up with it. She’s a great wife.

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• R
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• 2026/09/24 01:56

I just moved to Hawaii and don't have a track record here yet. Please tell me how to find a good place to live.
There are some sketchy websites out there, so if you know of any good real estate agencies, please let me know. ！

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#2

• 不動産
• 2026/09/24 (Thu) 12:54
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If it’s a major U.S. real estate company, you can trust it.

Kelly Williams （ K.W.) and the like.

Are you looking to rent ？ or do you plan to buy? ？

It depends on that.

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#3

• R
• 2026/09/25 (Fri) 00:32
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I see. ！ It's a rental. ！

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#4

• 不動産
• 2026/09/25 (Fri) 16:23
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If you're looking to rent, I think it's best to go with a real estate agency that has close ties to the local community.

I think you should contact the real estate agencies listed in this town guide.

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• 2026/09/21 16:55

I recently received an item from Amazon that was shipped to me by mistake.
Since I had placed an order very recently and my name was written on the package, I opened it—only to find it was an item I hadn't ordered.
I asked around my neighbors, and no one recognized it, so
I currently have it in my possession. What would you do in this situation? ？
The package contained everyday household items—specifically, bathroom supplies.

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#2

• DOWNTOWN
• 2026/09/21 (Mon) 17:30
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I think you should contact Amazon.

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#3

• こーの字
• 2026/09/21 (Mon) 18:25
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I know this might be overthinking things, but since you mentioned that this was a recent order and your name was on the box,
is there any chance that the wrong package was sent? ？
If that’s the case, I’ll contact Amazon to let them know I received the wrong item.
What is the current shipping status of your most recent order? ？

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#4

• rak
• 2026/09/22 (Tue) 03:36
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Do you have any idea who might have given it to you as a gift? ？

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• アンマスク
• 2026/09/24 (Thu) 01:38
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Since there had been an incident in the past where a package intended for another household was delivered to us—
(this is a townhouse)—I asked my neighbors, who seem to shop on Amazon frequently, and “There have been times when items meant for our house ended up at another neighbor’s. If it’s something you didn’t buy, why not just keep it? ？” I’ve been waiting for a response from Amazon since I posted this, but haven’t heard back yet. I appreciate everyone’s opinions. Thank you very much.

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• ほし
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• 2026/09/13 16:21

A very elderly, single Japanese-American male colleague gave me some natto to put on my pasta—the packages had expired one and two years ago. I suspect he had absolutely no idea they were past their expiration dates. Since he knows my daughter likes natto, I think he just happened to find them in his kitchen and brought them over. Without realizing it, I ended up eating the one that had expired a year ago. It didn’t taste strange, but I suppose I should thank him, right? ？ Of course, it’s probably safer not to mention that it was past its expiration date. ？ Even if I told him it was expired, I think he’d just say something like, “Oh, is that so? Sorry,” and that would be the end of it. But since he’s an older Japanese-American, he’s the type who might hold a grudge if I don’t thank him properly.

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#2

• なな
• 2026/09/13 (Sun) 18:45
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If it were me, after thanking them, I’d mention that the expiration date had passed by a year or two.

It might depend on how close Hoshisan and her colleague are.

If he’s married, it might be better to tell his wife.

If you tell someone with dementia or Alzheimer’s, they’ll probably forget right away.

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#3

• ほし
• 2026/09/14 (Mon) 10:39
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Nana, thank you.
It would be one thing if they were just a little past their expiration date, but one and two years is way too long.
I’ll let them know and thank them.
I’ve been feeling a bit uneasy about this, but now I think I can clear things up. ！

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• 2026/09/05 10:08

It seems the kitchen drain is clogged, and the water won’t drain. I’ve tried various things—using a long drain snake, pouring in a special drain-cleaning gel, and flushing hot water, baking soda, and vinegar down the drain—but nothing has worked.
If you know of any reliable plumbers, I’d appreciate it if you could let me know. I’m in Torrance, so it would be great if the plumber was in that area.
By the way, this isn’t a regular home—it’s a church kitchen—so the scale might be different. Thank you in advance.

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#3

• サンシャイン
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• 2026/09/05 (Sat) 22:35
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The approach will vary depending on whether only the kitchen is clogged or if the entire building—including the toilet and other areas—is clogged.
If the main sewer line is clogged, everything will be clogged; however, if only the kitchen sink is clogged, it means the section between the main line and the sink is blocked, so I think you can clear it by slowly working a drain snake from the sink side. While a power drain snake can get the job done faster, some people have injured their fingers by getting them caught when using one without gloves, so it might be better for a layperson to use a manual drain snake and take a few hours to clear the blockage slowly. If the main sewer line is blocked, it’s faster to insert the drain snake from the drain grate on the sewer side.

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#4

• 冷蔵君
• 2026/09/08 (Tue) 19:34
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You mentioned a “long snake”—how many feet is it? ？ Commercially available snakes are usually no longer than about 15 feet, right? Since it’s a church, it must be a single-family home. I imagine the clogged section is about 25 feet away. The snake won’t reach that far. You’ll either have to take the plunge and buy a 30-foot snake or call a professional.

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• はらぼう
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• 2026/08/18 00:08

Nice to meet you.
I live in Japan and am currently traveling in the U.S. Yesterday, while driving a rental car from Idaho to Yellowstone, I exceeded the speed limit （ of 65 miles per hour ） by about 40 miles and was issued a ticket by the Fremont County Sheriff for DRIVING -RECKLESS, and was told to call if I cannot appear in court on a certain date in September; I was also told that the fine would be determined at that time.
Will I be able to pay the fine after I return to Japan? ？
Also, what would be a reasonable amount? ？
I would appreciate any information you can provide. Thank you in advance.

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• 冷蔵君
• 2026/08/18 (Tue) 13:09
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Before the date in September arrives, call the Fremont County Circuit Court ） listed on the ticket （ Citation ）, explain that you must return to Japan （ because you are a traveler ）, and ask how to pay the fine.
Since this traffic ticket is not a standard speeding violation but rather “Reckless Driving （” ）—a criminal misdemeanor （ ）— I do not believe online payments via the court portal （ (such as the Wyoming Judicial Branch Payments system) are available.
If you’re told you must appear in court or if the fine is substantial, you should consider hiring a Wyoming traffic attorney （ Traffic Attorney ） to appear on your behalf.
I wrote that as if I knew what I was talking about, but it was actually a Google AI search. I just copied and pasted a topic by “Harabou” in Japanese. Looks like I could become a lawyer starting tomorrow ！ ！

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#3

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• 2026/08/29 (Sat) 11:03
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As a parent, that post was just too much to bear
I've heard that when you get caught going over 100 miles per hour, you're usually taken straight to prison. Reizou-kun is absolutely right.

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#4

• 通りすがり
• 2026/08/30 (Sun) 11:21
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I’m a complete layman, but I’m confident in stating the following:

Arrested for a serious speeding violation ・ Even if you aren’t detained, since this is a misdemeanor, it’s likely to hinder your future entry into the U.S. via ESTA. If your ・ financial situation allows, I believe the best course of action is to hire a traffic attorney to seek a reduced charge in court. (Using a defense prepared by a lawyer—such as unfamiliarity with U.S. traffic laws or the rental car’s speedometer, or that the speeding was not intentional.) In any case, I believe it is necessary to obtain a written copy of the court’s judgment to use as a defense when applying for a visa in the future.

If you ignore the judgment and fail to pay the fine, the court (not the police) will issue a bench warrant. This will result in your immediate arrest ・ and detention upon entry into the United States.

This is equivalent to receiving a red ticket for excessive speeding in Japan, where the penalty is a fine for a criminal offense rather than an administrative penalty.

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• 2026/07/16 17:22

Whenever I try to check my email, a screen pops up asking me to enter my IMAP account password, and even when I enter the new password I just changed, it seems to be incorrect and I can't access my account. Just to be sure, I tried entering the old password, but that didn't work either. Could you please let me know if there's a solution or a company that handles this kind of issue? ？

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#2

• こーの字
• 2026/07/16 (Thu) 18:23
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Can't you resolve this by resetting your login method here? ？
https://login.yahoo.co.jp/ar/top

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#3

• YAHOO
• 2026/07/16 (Thu) 19:16
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I can log in through the Yahoo website and check my email there, but it doesn't seem to sync with the Mail app on my iPhone ？—the one that comes pre-installed on the iPhone. I'm thinking ？ that there might be some restrictions because I live overseas.
I’m busy today, so I’m thinking of stopping by the Apple Store tomorrow, but since it’s a Japanese Yahoo Mail account, I’m worried they might not be able to resolve the issue.

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#4

• こーの字
• 2026/07/17 (Fri) 11:51
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So that’s the situation, then.

It seems that Yahoo Mail does indeed have restrictions on access from overseas enabled by default.
https://whatsnewmail.yahoo.co.jp/yahoo/20250805a.html

Disabling the access restrictions for overseas users might make it possible.
https://support.yahoo-net.jp/PccMail/s/article/H000007323

I hope it works out.

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#5

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• 2026/07/17 (Fri) 19:47
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As Ko-ji-san mentioned, I tried disabling access from overseas yesterday, but it didn't work.
Today, I received helpful advice at the Apple Store, and we tried all sorts of solutions, but we couldn’t resolve the issue. For now, they set up a bookmark for Yahoo! Japan Mail, and I’ve been opening it from there. Although I’ve saved my password and other information on my smartphone, I have to go through text verification every time I open it, which is a hassle.
The Apple representative told me to try opening it again from the iPhone Mail app after a while—they said there’s a chance it might start working for some reason, but they couldn’t say for sure. They mentioned that this kind of thing happens from time to time.
I imagine there are many people living overseas who use the Yahoo! Japan Mail service—has anyone else been affected by this?

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• Yelle
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• 2026/07/10 17:03

I’m embarrassed to say I fell for what seemed to be a Zelle wire transfer scam and was defrauded out of $420.
I reported it to my bank right away and opened a new account.
In cases like this, should I report it to the police as well? ？
Or would that just be a waste of time? ？

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#7

• Yelle
• 2026/07/12 (Sun) 19:09
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To #6
Thank you so much for your kind words.
At a time when everyone seems like a scammer, I really appreciate it.

To #4
Thank you for your valuable advice.
Thinking that might be the case, I did a search and found a website called the Internet Crime Complaint Center, run by the FBI, so I’ll file a report there.

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#8

• もしかして
• 2026/07/12 (Sun) 20:04
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I think it's a good idea to go to the local police station in the city where the incident occurred.
Why not file a report with both? If it gets forwarded to the FBI, that's fine too.

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#9

• scammers
• 2026/07/13 (Mon) 03:53
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I’ve been bored lately, so I’ve been answering calls from strangers on my cell phone, but there are so many scams.

Someone claiming to be from Citi Bank asked if I had authorized some suspicious account activity. I checked my credit card statement on my computer and saw nothing unusual, so I hung up.

I received a call from US Bank $ asking if I’d bought a firearm for 9,000, and I told them to “go to hell.” When I looked up the phone number, it was listed as US Bank, but it was also listed as a number used by scammers. There was even a fake US Bank website linked to this scam number.

I also got a call from Bank of America about suspicious activity, but I happened to have my son take the call, and he yelled, “What do you want? Get to the point—what do you want?”

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#10

• Yelle
• 2026/07/16 (Thu) 14:48
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Here’s a follow-up.
Immediately after realizing I’d been scammed, I called CITIBANK to explain the situation, and the $420 that had been fraudulently taken via Zelle was placed under dispute.
After that, I opened a new account, and since my new ATM/debit card arrived today, I activated it right away. When I checked my account activity online, I saw that the $420 had been refunded. ！ I was a little moved. I’m really impressed by CITIBANK’s prompt response.
To everyone who offered advice and encouragement, thank you so much.

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#11

• @倍金萬
• 2026/07/16 (Thu) 19:24
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＞ I’ve been bored lately, so I’ve been answering calls from strangers on my cell phone, but there are so many scams.

If a call comes from a number I don’t recognize, I “absolutely” never answer it.

Friends I already know ・ acquaintances, or financial institutions ・ or business contacts—are already saved in my phone. When they call, their specific names appear on the screen, so if a call comes in without that name displayed, I absolutely never press the answer button.

If the display shows only a phone number, I completely ignore it and leave it alone until the ring stops.

Since scammers make calls automatically using computers, it seems that if there’s no answer after a few attempts, the system automatically deletes the number.

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• M
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• 2026/07/08 20:06

Is Yakitori Ando currently open?
I’m worried because there haven’t been any updates on their Instagram, and I can’t get through when I call.
I know I could just go there in person, but it’s far from my house, so
if anyone knows, please let me know.
Thank you in advance.

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#2

• はしお
• 2026/07/10 (Fri) 18:55
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I think you should try calling after 6:00 p.m.
It seems they're open every day except Wednesday. 808-739-5702

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• M
• 2026/07/10 (Fri) 23:11
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Thank you for letting me know.
I was able to get through on the phone. It was a very busy
restaurant where it’s hard to get a reservation.
Thank you very much.

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• Nayami
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• 2026/07/06 13:25

There are a lot of cats in a certain part of Waikiki.
For several years now, taking a walk around there has been part of my daily routine,
and I walked there every day, when I happened to meet a woman of Brazilian descent
who was feeding the cats.
I like animals, but I was somewhat skeptical
about feeding stray cats, before long, I ended up helping to trap the cats,
which I did because I wanted to help, but
I started getting asked to feed them on days when she was working late or traveling,
I’ve turned them down many times, saying I couldn’t do it long-term,
but they pleaded with me, saying the cats were pitiful, and also because that person
is good at manipulating people to do as they please by coming up with all sorts of excuses,
so before I knew it, I’m now being made to feed the cats quite frequently every week.
Because of this, I can’t go anywhere, and I have to deal with the guilt and
inner conflict over feeding the cat, plus the cost of food is quite high, so
it feels like it’s going to wear me down both mentally and physically.
On top of that, this person has announced they’re moving to Hawaii Kai soon,
and even though they initially said they’d come from Hawaii Kai to Waikiki to feed the cats,
now they’re trying to push the entire responsibility onto me,
which is causing me a lot of trouble. It would be easy for me to just quit, but since there are cats that are always
waiting for me and some that are used to people, I just can’t bring myself to make that decision.
I thought about consulting an animal welfare group again, so I contacted a few, but I haven’t received any replies at all,
and I’m really at a loss.
I’d really appreciate it if anyone could give me some advice.

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#2

• 動物大好き
• 2026/07/08 (Wed) 13:41
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Nayami,
you’ve run into someone who’s incredibly irresponsible.
If you can’t take responsibility until the very end, you shouldn’t have started in the first place, but first of all, feeding stray cats in public places without permission is illegal.
You could be fined, so you should stop doing that.
Feeding cats that haven’t been spayed or neutered contributes to the stray cat population, which is likely why that law was enacted.
A while back, a cat-loving neighbor of mine started feeding them, but it led to a vicious cycle where kittens kept having kittens, and the stray cat population exploded. After receiving complaints from other neighbors, they had a hard time catching them all and eventually took them to the Humane Society.
So, I think it’s fine to just say, “I’m sorry, but I don’t want to break the law,” to that irresponsible friend.
I think the cats will eventually move to areas where animal welfare organizations have obtained permits to feed them.

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