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Vivinavi Hawaii
There are times when property taxes double for homeowners ？.

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#1
  • G
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  • 2023/08/02 02:35

It's a bit long.

●My sister and her husband live in a house in my mother's name （ Hawaii ） and claim they paid their own property taxes every month
●For some reason, payment letters come to Japan where my mother lives through 2021 ～ 2022.
●I send one of about 3 letters back from the sender （ maybe the IRS ） I'll return it. （ Maybe last year ）

●Yesterday, my sister sent me a bill for double the amount of taxes I had paid, and she blames me for something I said, but I honestly don't remember
I tell her I think they probably just sent it to Hawaii.

●My friend who lives in a detached house says that she has never heard of taxes going up whether the parents or the children live there
●My sister talked to a lawyer and he said that the taxes will go up unless my mother lives there because it is in her name. She blames me like who told her that.
●I think it's not reasonable to be angry because my mother doesn't actually live there because she was found out ？ I should rather consider myself lucky to have paid less until now. （ This is not as straightforward as it sounds. ）
The point is that he has been filing false tax returns and is worried about whether this could be construed as tax evasion.
●My sister is upset that we are family and she treats people like crimes ？.
●I was just stating the main points of my concern, but it's better for a layman not to say easy things. Please settle the matter with a lawyer. When I told him that I had nothing to do with it and that I had nothing to blame him for, he turned the tables on me.

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09:44 A What did you write when you sent the tax paper back to the city and county in Hawaii, sister ？
09:45 A Our taxes are about to double to $6548. The price went up
09:46 A I asked the office and they said it was because I got a letter from Japan saying my mom doesn't live here
09:46 A They said it was a third party price because she doesn't live here.
09:47 A I can't pay this amount of money ？

13:10 Y sorry. I'm at a conference.
13:11 Y I don't remember anymore. But I think it only said to send it to the Hawaii address.
13:13 Y I don't think I wrote anything about your mother not living in Hawaii or any such details. I think I wrote "please send to Hawaii.

14:03 A Got it. I'll ask the tax office for details. It's kind of weird that it suddenly doubled 🙂
14:03 A It's so expensive, it's ridiculous.

16:33 YYou know, I just talked to HI, and he said he doesn't think the taxes will double because of who lives there. Because there are many people like that in the world.
I was told to ask my accountant for more information, but my friend （ who has a property in Hawaii and lives there now ） told me ？ that asking an accountant might not be enough. Maki-san said he will ask his friend.
16:33 Y I've never heard of taxes going up because people don't live there. Also, it's strange that I suddenly got a form to come to Japan for a few months. Anyway, I will let you know when I hear from my friend.

16:34 A I already talked to Mr. Hi. I'm talking to my lawyer now. It seems that taxes are different depending on who owns and lives in the house.

16:35 Y Let me know if you find out what the lawyer said.

16:35 A It's okay. We'll do it ourselves.

16:35 YOK

16:36 A I asked my lawyer and he said. The amount of taxes will change
16:37 Ay if we find out that mom doesn't live there

16:37 Y There is no proof that she doesn't live there, so if we say she comes and goes ？

16:37 A They already know something

16:37 Y If you checked legal immigration,
16:38 Y you would know, but other than that, you have no evidence.

16:38 A You don't look into one individual, so if they would know, someone would have said ？
16:40 A I would talk to a lawyer about what to do.

16:42 Y Just because someone said it doesn't prove it. But the fact is that they are lying, so you have to ask your lawyer to handle that. I hope the lawyer is a good one.

16:42 A It's not a lie. If it was a family member, they wouldn't think so. ？
16:43 A It's not like you're committing a crime.
16:45 A She said there's no way we're committing a crime for what we've done. We've paid for it, so what do you think


objectively about your mom's belongings ？
I think what my sister is saying is wrong.
In reality, the fact is that my mother does not live in that building, and I think she deserves it because she found out about it. I wonder if the taxes really double for those who live in Hawaii ？.

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#5
  • こーの字
  • 2023/08/02 (Wed) 17:01
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By the way, as a rough estimate,
$ 1,000,000 assessed value with home exemption
( $ 1,000,000 - $ 100,000)*0.35% = $ 3,150

With recent home price hikes, the increase from a year ago $ 1,200,000. 1,200,000, which is an increase from the previous assessment, and without the home exemption
$ 1,000,000*0.45% + $ 200,000*1.05% = $ 6,600.

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#6
  • こーの字
  • 2023/08/02 (Wed) 17:07
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The order is backwards.
I have a post before #5 with a URL link, but it is not showing up, so
I'll post it without the link.


I'm a complete novice, but
I found a detailed property tax calculation at the following link.

I heard that for a regular single family home, the tax is calculated as assessed property value x 0.35%.

I guess owner occupied or not is applicable to Home exemption.
They say that if you file a Home exemption, $ 100,000 will be deducted from the assessed property value.
This difference is not that big.

Just not owner occupied （ No home excemption filed ） Property is
Residential A Tax Rate (two tiered) and $ up to 1,000,000 0.45% for up to 1,000,000 and 1.05% for $ 1,000,000 excess.
This is probably the case this time.

Also, even if the property tax rate remains the same, property taxes should increase if the assessed property value soars.

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#7
  • Ken
  • 2023/08/02 (Wed) 19:01
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Your questioner （ G. ） is correct.　Your sister is incorrect.
As stated on the following website, beginning in FY 2023, the tax rate is higher for property that is not used by the owner as a primary residence.
Therefore, it is very possible that property taxes will double.
Please take the time to read the following website for a better understanding.

https://realhawaii.co/blog/understanding-oahus-property-taxes#:~:text=(1)%20Residential%3A%200.35%25,value%20of%20 less%20than%20%241%2C000%2C000.

If you do not live there, the category is "Residential A".
It will be partially tacked on from the website.

The Residential A Honolulu Property Tax Rate applies to properties where an owner doesn't claim the home exemption and the

An example of the Honolulu Residential A property tax rate:

A 50- year-old woman has a $ 1,000,000 units. Since this is her second home, she does not have an exemption. The estimated annual taxes up to $ 1,000,000 are $ 4,500 ($ 1,000,000 x 0.0045), and the yearly property taxes above $ 1,000, 000 000 are $ 6,300 ($ 600,000 x 0.0105). Therefore the total taxes for her second property are $ 10,800 per year ( $ 6,300 + $ 4,500).

You will be asked for proof of residency or non-residency.　See below.

You may prove that the home is your primary residence by filling out a form and showing evidence that you are registered to vote in Honolulu, and file an income tax return as a State of Hawaii resident, or occupy the home 270 days or more each calendar year.

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#8

#G is right.

Our situation is a little different, but our taxes are higher.
Almost double.

Your sister is asking her lawyer, so it should have been explained to her, and it is not reasonable to blame Mr. G.

My parents used to come and go,
but I once thought ？
that the immigration records would automatically tell whether they lived in Japan or Hawaii.

~~16:37 Y There is no proof that you don't live here, so if you say you come and go ？ ~~

you can provide proof of residence.
Passports in and out of the country are easily checked by the government.

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#9
  • MAG
  • 2023/08/06 (Sun) 00:37
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A friend of mine had a similar situation, but after consulting with a lawyer, it seems that there are various loopholes, so why don't you leave it to the lawyer's judgment?

But the contractor himself doesn't actually live there ？ If that's the case, I don't think your sister has the right to blame anyone.

As stated above, you lied on your tax return. ？ I think it is wrong to blame others for the increase in taxes. I think you got what you deserved. The best thing to do is to stay out of it. I'm sorry I can't be of more help. However, in this day and age, there is no doubt that taxes are skyrocketing everywhere.
Unfortunately.

However, as ＃ 4kouji said, the price of houses in Hawaii is going up so much that it is inevitable
for homeowners to have to pay higher taxes every year ？ if you don't want to pay taxes, just lease. If you don't want to pay taxes, just live in a lease.
We also sold our house and live in a lease.

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Vivinavi Los Angeles
Recommended Japanese Auto Repair

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  • ドライ君
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  • 2023/08/16 17:42

Recently, when I take my car to an authorized dealer

for regular maintenance,

I feel like I am being ripped off by the dealer.

Well, it is a big problem in Japan now, but

I still feel some resistance when I am told by Americans.

I also feel uncomfortable taking them to Latino and Korean factories in the suburbs of LA.

I know there are several Japanese repair shops around Torrance, but

do you have any recommendations?

There are a lot of information in magazines, etc. and I am quite worried.

If there are any reliable repair shops near LA, please exchange information.

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#150
  • 底辺社会人
  • 2023/08/23 (Wed) 11:31
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＞ We have Chinese and Indian subcontractors producing.

Subcontractors, yes.

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#151
  • OEM
  • 2023/08/23 (Wed) 11:44
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Mr. Bottom-feeder

Thank you. Yes, it is a subcontracting company. Living in the U.S. makes me speak strange Japanese.

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#152
  • メカニック
  • 2023/09/04 (Mon) 12:39
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I used to be a mechanic in the South Bay
I know some of the ins and outs of other vendors
All stores are told to replace parts that don't need to be changed to make a sale because of customer concerns.
Also, the labor rate changes a little depending on the city
The market rate is $ 100-120/hour
I have not heard good things about Japanese children's auto
I do not know personally, but I have heard many strange things from customers. The only way to find a decent place is to book for a week or two, because if you can get a reservation right away, you'll wonder why you're not busy ？.

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#154
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん。
  • 2023/09/04 (Mon) 18:36
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Mechanic
Thank you for your valuable information.

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#155
  • うんうん
  • 2023/09/04 (Mon) 19:38
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＞ I'm like ？ why is there so much free time in a restaurant that gets booked right away

it's like being a dentist.

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Vivinavi Los Angeles
インプラント失敗

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#1
  • pariです
  • mail
  • 2017/04/07 00:41

先月、インプラントの手術をしましたが、その後、ねじ周りが感染を起こしてしまったらしく、痛みがひどい状態です。
レントゲンには、ねじ周辺に影が写っています。
しかし、歯科医は、それは感染ではないといいます。

依然として、痛みはおさまらないので、他の歯科医にセカンドオピニオンをもらいにいきました。そちらでは、「感染を起こしている。これでは、骨とくっつかない」と言われました。

歯科医がうその言い訳をして、インプラントのやり直し等に応じない場合、アメリカには、通報するような機関があるのでしょうか？
歯科医の失敗を責めるつもりはありませんが、善意ある対処をしてもらえないことに、憤慨しています。

特に、感染しているのは、他のスタッフたちも薄々気づいているほど、明らかな事実であるのに、自分の保身のためか、虚偽の説明を繰り返す歯科医の行為は、ライセンスに影響する行為だと考えます。

#43
  • ルーシー３
  • 2017/04/12 (Wed) 23:43
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そうなんですか、初めて知りました。

歯のインプラントにもいろいろなパターンがありまして
通常インプラントと言うと、1つの歯に1本のインプラントを使うイメージがありますが、
ブリッジの様に数本のインプラントにまたがって入れ歯のような義歯をかぶせる事も出来ます。
この方法だと上下6本ぐらいのインプラントで総入れ歯のような義歯をかぶせれます。

#44
  • 老人ボケとインプラント
  • 2017/04/13 (Thu) 09:42
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なるほど、インプラントにブリッジという手もあるんですね。
少し安心しました。
才能ある若者達に再生医療の進歩を期待しています。

#58
  • 昭和のおと
  • 2017/12/09 (Sat) 11:37
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メキシコに行ってインプラントしたほうがいいんでないの？
二回の通院で腕もいいし安い！
現金払いだが・・・

#59
  • 竜王
  • 2017/12/09 (Sat) 12:05
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２回でインプラントは終了するの？

#87
  • 猫
  • 2018/02/14 (Wed) 16:19
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#84pariさん

質問です。私もインプラント入れ、クラウン入れて二年経ちますが、月に1回ぐらい、数日から10間程度痛みがあります。
クラウンを入れて二年経ちます。

今歯医者に通い噛み合わせ、クラウンのネジの微調整で様子を見ていますが一向によくなりません。
レントゲンで数回、インプラントの具合を見てもらいましたが、感染症を起こしてる様子はないと言われました。

そこでインプラント入れたのは２本目で一本目は全く問題もなく快適です。

質問です。
１、除去してから感染してるとのことですが、レントゲンではわからないものですか？
２、インプラント除去後はどうされますか？インプラントをもう一度されますか？
　
痛みが続き不快なので、私も除去→入れ歯を覚悟した方がいいのかと思いはじめました。

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Vivinavi Los Angeles
tattoo

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  • ふぅ
  • mail
  • 2023/09/03 01:14

Anyone know a Japanese carver ？
I live in Little Tokyo ！.

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Differences in ESTA application fees when family members come here from Japan to visit

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  • hihi
  • mail
  • 2023/08/30 10:46

I heard that my brother and his wife paid 8 ， 690 yen and his wife paid 24,532 yen, why are they paying different amounts? ？ If you know anything about this, please let me know ？.

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#3

P.S. I'm not sure if you can get it through the official U.S. government website.
Come to think of it, I think it's $ 21 if you go through the official US government website. 8690 yen is also a vendor fee somewhere ？
Well, if you've already paid and got it successfully, just be careful next time.
The following is from the U.S. Embassy website.
All Visa Waiver Programs （ VWP ） Travelers must pay a $21 application fee when applying for ESTA. The fee can be paid by credit card through the ESTA application website.
Note ： Beware of counterfeit websites where third parties request unauthorized information or application fees. These businesses and websites are in no way affiliated with the U.S. government.

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#4

Not to answer your question, but my parents are coming to the U.S. soon and ESTA is something that all people coming from Japan （ tourism ） must apply for ？ or is there something else I should know about?

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Is it still just my small vessel ？?

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  • monicasanta
  • 2023/08/17 21:07

I would like to discuss child rearing.
Please especially those who have experienced international marriage and stepchild marriage.

I am a Japanese 35 year old man. My wife is an American 35 years old and a housewife.
We have four children, ages 10, 8, 5, and 2 from the top.

The two older children are the children of my wife and her ex-husband.
The ex-husband pays child support payments of $250 per person per month for a total of $500.
They have had chronic illnesses from the beginning that required hospital visits, but the ex-husband only pays $500 per month in child support.
Currently, they rarely see each other due to ex-husband's availability.

I have been with my older two since they were 4 and 2
I am proud to say that I have treated them as if they were my own.

In this day and age, especially in the US,
it is better to respect the biological father after a divorce and
treat the remarried father as a stepfather only.
My wife tells me "you are a stepfather" every time I have a conflict in parenting.

I am mortified every time.
It's been over 5 years now.
The oldest child has also been remarried longer.

Is it still just my small capacity ？?

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#32
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/21 (Mon) 17:35
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Some personal crisis The welfare of a child or family member You are ill or disabled

If you are in a difficult situation, a social worker can help you.
You can contact a social worker by asking to speak with a social worker.
Let us know if you need an interpreter. We will arrange for an interpreter.
You can also call the Multilingual Telephone Service.

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#33
  • 平成のおにぃやん
  • 2023/08/21 (Mon) 19:13
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#30

It's the exact opposite of here.
Here, after many years of illegal residence
Permanent residence by amnesty.
Citizenship by flow.
This is a hangout for old people
who can't go back to Japan.

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#34
  • アメリカ20年
  • 2023/08/21 (Mon) 20:27
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I can't have a conversation with someone who just came from Japan
I've been in the US for a long time and I don't feel the same way
But they take advantage of me because it's convenient

It's better for me not to get involved.

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#35
  • 嫌な予感
  • 2023/08/21 (Mon) 23:05
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I don't see Topi coming out.

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#36
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/22 (Tue) 08:04
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I wonder how long it would take to get a permanent residency with a pardon.

I hope it only takes a year or two to get a pardon.

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Looking for a preschool for 3 year olds

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#1
  • Era
  • mail
  • 2023/08/22 02:39

I am not sure where to send my child to preschool ❖(town ❖).
Please let me know if you have any recommendations.
Thank you very much.

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  • 3歳の女の子ママ
  • 2023/08/22 (Tue) 12:04
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Hi ！ We started a 3 year old class this year and I have had a tutor since I was 2.
It depends on whether the school is an exam school or a wait list school.

If it is an exam school, then St. Clements, Montessori Community School, Unity School, Central Union, and Midpac.

If you don't need to take entrance exams,
KCAA next to Kakaako Whole Foods, Seagull, Kawaiahao, Makiki Church, Hongwanji, Waialae, FBC, Olivet, St. Patrick's....

All of the schools you are considering are over 15,000 per year tuition $.
In Tuition, St. Patrick, Olivet, and Segal were unbeatable at schools that did not need to take the test.
For your information.

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  • do
  • 2023/08/22 (Tue) 17:42
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1 ・ I only knew of 2 preschools, but I have been trying to find out about them for the past 6 months, so I thought it would be helpful to know what I did to start my child at a new school next year.
You can ask your acquaintances, but if you search for preschools on google maps, you will find a lot of preschools. Some places were paperless.
Once the application is submitted and accepted, you will be able to secure one for your child. In my opinion, the places where people who know everyone with kids and want to put them in private school from elementary school send them, the tuition is high, it's hard to get in because of the entrance exams, and some places don't do in-person tours in the first place. I haven't heard from the one that said they would do it if it were virtual, but they don't have any plans right now and would email me when they did...it's been two months now and I haven't heard from them. My requirements were that the place be easy to get to, the tuition was reasonable, and the school had a good atmosphere. Some places are starting to accept applications now, but some are already full for the next school year, so I think you should keep deciding.

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#4

Thank you all for the information ！
I will look into it properly.

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#5
  • ママ
  • 2023/08/23 (Wed) 18:47
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Hello. Do you want to go to school right away ？ Since the new school year is starting this month everywhere, many schools may be on waitlist, but if you wait 6 months or so, there may be openings, so it would be good to check how many people are waiting on waitlist at the time of application.

I have heard good things about Kawaiahao, Angels at play, Hongwanji, and Sacred Heart from people I know.

I had to keep an excel sheet to compare them because they really vary from school to school in terms of tuition, hours, after school, lunch availability, educational policy, etc.

By the way, in Town, preschool at Wai'alae Elementary School, a charter school, is free under government jurisdiction. The school will start accepting applications for the 2024 school year in January 2024, though the odds are very high. Good luck finding a good school.

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Vivinavi Kyoto
I'm not good with people, I'm shy, and I don't get along very well.

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  • れとま
  • 2023/08/23 04:53

I'm really shy and sometimes I don't get along very well with people
I can't talk well
even if I want to
I can't say it
I'm kind of withdrawn
etc.

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Vivinavi Los Angeles
Unhappy children who inherited only the shortcomings of their parents.

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  • 2023/08/06 02:18

I wanted to post this because I wanted to ask you all to listen to the hard feelings I have been having for many years.
I would be happy to hear from anyone who has suffered through a similar situation as I have, and how they are trying to overcome it.

I am now in my 40's and worked for many years on both marriage and job hunting to move to LA, but ultimately my wish was not granted and I recently returned home.
I believe that the main reason why my life is not going well despite my best efforts is because
I inherited my mother's bad looks, which is rare in history, and my father's temperamental personality.
Being a woman and having poor looks is a fatal disadvantage. Her mother, who is in her 70s, is not good-looking, but she graduated from a top school and a first-class national university, is very intelligent, intellectually curious, and has a good way of doing everything, and has many friends with a likable personality. After giving birth, she became a housewife, but during her working years, she earned more money than her father. Because of this, she married her father, who is relatively wealthy, well-educated, and relatively good-looking. On the other hand, my father was smart and chose women based on the wavelength of conversation and their personalities, so he did not particularly care about their looks, but he is selfish, short-tempered, and quick-tempered. I am not as well-educated as my mother, and I don't feel the same yearning for a full-time housewife like my mother, and I don't like children either, so I longed for a single life in LA where I could be carefree. Since I was not good enough to get permanent residency on my own and did not have the good looks to get a man to marry me and support my permanent residency, I had to return home.

After returning home, I have found a full-time job, but it is almost a black company and does not seem to last.
I regret that I should have studied for more qualifications when I was young so that I could get a solid job. I am currently working on my studies, which I was not able to do when I was younger, and I am angry at my parents for not communicating the importance of getting a solid job when I was younger. Part of it is that my parents' generation did not place as much importance on women's financial independence, but all of their wishful thinking about me is off.
My appearance is not at a level that can be managed with petite plastic surgery.

Those who are not in my situation will not understand my situation.
I apologize for the length of this article, but I would be happy to hear from anyone who has overcome similar circumstances.

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  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/18 (Fri) 15:15
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I thought the food bank was still doing ？
I thought it was only at Corona.

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#121
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/19 (Sat) 07:41
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You won't increase your own income by worrying about strangers.

I need to think about working harder at my job and increasing my income instead.

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#124
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  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 11:48
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If I can do what I love to do for a living, I don't have to work with them.
I am grateful to be paid for doing what I love.

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#125
  • 超富裕層
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 11:52
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There are plenty of sundowners every day who have no money.

There are fifty thousand aged billionaires who are working.

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#127
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 15:49
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Ohashi Kioizumi used to host a show on the subject of play.
I envied him, but after I came to the US
I managed to earn money while playing after I got my permanent residency.
It was not hard until I got it because I could get something that I could use for the rest of my life.

Look at the world LOOK WORLD

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Vivinavi Los Angeles
How to find a roommate

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  • 2023/07/03 01:31

I have an extra room and would like to find a roommate.
Please tell me what kind of contract I should sign with my roommate.

Should I make a formal document and ask her to sign it?
Should I get a copy of the driver license?

I heard that someone I know had a bad roommate and had a hard time
I would like to know how you all do it.

Please do.

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  • 2023/07/24 (Mon) 12:16
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Deposit ＄ 2000 for a shared room, neither the landlord nor the renter...

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#37
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  • 2023/07/27 (Thu) 06:38
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You can't afford to call an Uber because you have no money and live in a taco bar.

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#39
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  • 2023/07/27 (Thu) 21:29
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Be careful of self-proclaimed stuntmen.

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  • 2023/08/17 (Thu) 18:01
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I do not recommend Waraby's Auto Repair.

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  • 2023/08/18 (Fri) 08:16
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When I used to work in the Gardena area
I used to frequent this place when it was open in Gardena.

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