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• 911
• 2023/11/14 (Tue) 23:16
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I have acquaintances, but I don't make friends.
In the past, I was told that I only contact friends when I use people
Oh well, I won't do it again, and that's the end of it.

• ぼっち
• 2023/11/15 (Wed) 08:44
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I feel like it's kind of a hassle. But I have kids, so when I see other kids having playdates, I sometimes feel sorry for my kids because they can't go there because of me.

I hate it when they don't split the bill. The only thing better than splitting the bill is paying for your own portion, though. I don't drink alcohol, but the wine we all drank except for me was included in the bill, and it was ＄ 42 plus per person, but it was more expensive than dinner.

I don't consider myself to have any friends, but I think there are a lot of people who take "we're just friends" quite lightly. I don't usually get involved with them at all, and I'm not the person they turn to when they have a problem (I basically solve it myself or give up and don't tell them every time). Not that there is anything wrong with that, but there is so much variation in the definition of a friend that it is hard to understand.

Someone who contacts me only when they have a favor to ask after not seeing me for years is also not a friend.

I feel sorry for myself for thinking that I don't have to worry about not having friends. Sometimes I can ask the teachers, the office staff, or the mothers in the class if I don't have any friends to help me with school matters.

I sometimes think that I hate myself like this.

• 昭和27
• 2023/11/16 (Thu) 11:13
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I think it depends on the kind of friends you make, not on whether you need or don't need friends.

It depends on your personality.

If you feel uncomfortable or stressed after dating, then you should not want that friend.

Also, a friend is someone you meet at a certain point in your life. Even long-time friends can change their direction in life, or they may no longer be a good fit for you as you grow older.

In retrospect, friends looked like this.

• ぼっち
• 2023/11/16 (Thu) 21:16
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Yes. I agree with your opinion, Showa27.
Do you have times when you think it is troublesome ？

In my case, I don't like it when the number of members increases without permission or when people I don't know join the group.
I don't like it when people add members without my permission or when people I don't know join in.
I envy people who can talk about anything and have good friends, but I don't think I can do it.

• 悟り
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 08:51
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As I get older, I realize that people who don't have many friends or acquaintances are small in size. As I get older, I realize how many people cut themselves off from others because of profit-loss considerations or differences in values. People who don't have many friends are often jealous, overly profit-motivated, and self-centered. The person blames the other person for everything, but the person with few friends has strong habits, wants to judge and take advantage of the other person, and gives advice from above. If he/she is more comfortable with that, it's fine. I wouldn't want to get too close to him.

• Ms ミドル
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 09:08
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Not all people like to be in a group with others.
Some people find stress relief by having time to themselves, others find it refreshing to get together with others, and there are all kinds of people because we are all human.

It is tempting to compare yourself with those around you, but I think it is better to follow the way you feel comfortable in life.

• ぼっち
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 12:54
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I see. So that's how they see you if you don't have many friends. I don't think it's wrong to say that you are peculiar, but I think that since you don't have any friends to begin with, you don't have anyone to give advice to.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 13:15
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I don't think that people who don't have many friends and acquaintances mean that they are small vessels.

I feel safer with fewer friends and acquaintances because I can cherish them and keep them for a long time.

• Ms.middle
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 14:45
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People like 7 are the ones I don't want to hang out with because of their quirks. Some people like to crowd, some don't. You should live your life the way you are comfortable living.
First of all, take care of your family, and friends and acquaintances will come in time if you have a chance to meet them.

• 悟り２
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 16:11
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I think people who say that people with few friends have small capacity are the ones who have small capacity.

• 悟り
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 18:44
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You all don't have friends, do you?

• 悟り
• 2023/11/18 (Sat) 18:51
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Eh ？ I'm not a BBA ？ but

• 悟り
• 2023/11/18 (Sat) 18:55
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I am 25 years old. I do not have a VISA to work.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/19 (Sun) 15:57
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Friends should be friends you can count on one hand.
A friend should be a silent friend.
Sake should be lukewarm and warmed
A snack should be a grilled squid
If you drink botsup, botsup, botsup
The future will spread in your heart.

• 昭和27
• 2023/11/20 (Mon) 12:56
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Is Bokuchisan concerned about how he looks without friends ？
or does trying to make friends make him question what in the world a friend is?

Do you have to rethink what a friend is, you may arrive at some interesting results.

When a toddler comes into contact with children outside the family, they have made friends. The word friend is then used as a generic term for all kinds of relationships.

As adults, friends are replaced by family relationships, parental relationships, work relationships, play relationships, casual relationships, lover relationships, and so on.

At that time, you will no longer have friends. As an adult, you may assume you have no friends.

This idea is likely to be questioned and rebuffed, but it may be seen as a starting point for an interesting idea.

• ボッチ
• 2023/11/21 (Tue) 19:02
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If you marry a Showa-era father,
will they say that you are a ball-buster ？?

• ぼっち
• 2023/11/21 (Tue) 21:51
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No, no, I don't care about how I look. I don't like people who seem to have a lot of friends, and the feeling of being a bother comes first.

I think that by avoiding or not extending my connections with people in this way, I am also narrowing my child's world.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/22 (Wed) 07:00
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Showa Otto is LGBT, so it would be impossible.

• 昭和27
• 2023/11/22 (Wed) 12:19
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Do you feel sorry for your child for not having friends, not you?

Do you yourself find socializing stressful? There are a lot of people like that. That's all right. For children, that's why they have schools, where they learn about peer relationships, so to speak. That's important and they learn skills to do in society in the future.

The key thing is that you unconsciously send a message to your child not to socialize. It can be your attitude or your genetics.

What you can do is to promote openness in socializing to your children.