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• カウンセラーも所詮人間
• 2021/01/25 (Mon) 21:13
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Find someone to talk to who is a good fit for you.

Just the empathy of being heard makes most people feel better. They say it's many times more helpful to just be listened to than to be given highly subjective advice that misses the point. My friend who doesn't listen at all but just says, "Yeah, I know, I know, it's tough..." is always getting advice from everyone. LOL!

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2021/01/25 (Mon) 21:14
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I believe they only contact you by phone because of Corona.

I think they also sign a confidentiality agreement on the paperwork when they are hired
so even if they stop, they will still be strictly bound by confidentiality.

• No
• 2021/01/25 (Mon) 21:41
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As far as I know, confidentiality is stricter in the governor's office with clearer rules and regulations. The last time I consulted a lawyer in Little Tokyo about an estate or property, they offered such a service, and there was a service center employee beside me and it was the daughter of someone I knew, and I didn't want my parents to be told. Finally, I was told that if there was no one to entrust the lawyer to, I could donate the money to NPO Little Tokyo or other organizations, and I pulled out.

• ワーママ
• 2021/01/26 (Tue) 05:15
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Like Topy, I too have a corona disaster and have started going to counseling for various family issues and other problems. I called Little Tokyo, but they were too busy or didn't reply and I didn't get to start counseling. As others have said, counseling is a matter of compatibility, so I think it would be a good idea to contact them and give it a try ？ Just because someone else was good doesn't mean it will be good for you too. Moreover, the number of people receiving counseling at Corona Disaster is rapidly increasing and the counselors seem to be busy, so I am not sure if they will be able to start new counseling sessions.

I know you lost your job, but do you still have health insurance? If you want a Japanese teacher, you may try to find a Japanese counselor in your network and contact them. I found a good teacher through that. With my insurance, I will only have to pay Co-pay, but my teacher was able to find that out for me and let me know. I think it depends on the insurance you have. Now that counseling is done via Zoom, I think you have more options, even if the counselor is far away from you, you don't have to commute to the office. If it's not for you, you just don't continue, so I think you should just contact them and try it out to see if it's a good fit or not.

• Same
• 2021/01/26 (Tue) 19:32
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The same person ？

• ？
• 2021/01/26 (Tue) 19:37
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something already seen or experienced

• Ho
• 2021/01/26 (Tue) 19:39
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I know many of you are struggling
with the changes in your lives and the effects of Corona.


Please at least don't
troll these topics.

• 悩まない性格に改革
• 2021/01/26 (Tue) 19:57
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I'm prepared to comment on this at the risk of criticism.

Troubles come from spending too much time thinking in your head without acting. And the most troublesome trouble is that you can't let go of the unobtainable hope forever. In other words, giving up. First of all, the shortest way to get rid of unfulfilled desires is to give up on them. Trying to make the right choice based on useless knowledge and information is a good thing, but it is not necessarily true for everyone.

First, write down your problems and desires on paper. Then, after consulting with them to some extent, don't discuss them with others until you have made a decision. No matter how good the advice you receive, if it does not apply to you, you will feel lost and even self-loathing. The person asking for advice is also a human being, and there are many people who will poke water into the decision you have made. The important thing is not to make the right choice, but to make your own decision. If you make a mistake, you can start over again. A good counselor is not someone who can give you the answer, but someone who can help you find the right answer.

People's happiness comes in different forms. Getting a good job at a good company, getting married, and having children is not the only way to live a good life. Some people are relieved by sharing these values, while others feel suffocated. Only you know the answer. Consultation is only a pathway to finding yourself.

Don't worry, just act. Just by distancing yourself from unwanted information and relationships, you may find a path that suits you.

• keiresume
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 06:12
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#16
You say good things. Are you a professional in these related fields ？
I don't trust others, including counselors, so much so that I would like you to
be my counselor.
I am disappointed in doctors, lawyers, accountants.
please write better.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 06:43
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#16 I think you are right. I will keep that in mind. When I was going through a divorce and didn't know what to do, I called a free consultation service and was told by a meddlesome woman to reconsider and talk things over, without getting an accurate answer. In the meantime, my American counterpart had beaten me to the punch and kicked me out of the house, and I had a terrible time. Since then, I have never called that free consultation service again. They are a bunch of amateurs, mainly self-aggrandizing Obaba with their personal values. Maybe they are good for people who are lonely and want to talk in Japanese. Even many of my friends give me information I don't need. If you are lonely, you will make unnecessary mistakes in your choices and respect other people's opinions.

• AI
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 08:18
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AI counselors are starting to become popular in the U.S., aren't they?
Since interpersonal feelings are eliminated when dealing with a computer, feelings of embarrassment are eliminated and one can express one's true feelings without hiding them.
It is expected that AI will be able to solve problems more objectively and extensively than humans.

• 悩まない性格に改革
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 08:58
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Ultimately, most of our worries are human relations.

If AI becomes widespread in many fields, I believe that the number of problems in the workplace and friendships will decrease dramatically.

People today have easy access to a world that had nothing to do with them because of the Internet, which has made it easier to discover their potential and talents, but at the same time, there are too many options to choose from, which is a cause for worry.

Mr. 18
It seems that the gentler people are, the more indecisive they are. They tend to put themselves on the back burner out of respect for others. But it is a lossy role, so you have to balance it out and live well.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 08:59
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I don't have to show embarrassment plus consideration and respect for human counselors, so I can make the best choice for myself.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 09:16
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#21 Thank you. It really is all about balance, isn't it? Yes, I have always respected the other person and was made to babysit for free as if it was free, and used in many ways, and when I asked, my husband told me the regular price, and I successfully refused. I was told by my husband to pay the full amount when I asked for it. lol Well, the person was very sympathetic and gave free services to the poor and many children around. Actually, my parents were rich and I went to an expensive school. Loans and all.
Recently, I have been called selfish and egotistical because I speak up. I don't know why that happens when I refuse their requests and demands, though. Relationships and workplaces are really difficult. I am so clumsy.

• クレーマー発見
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 09:16
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＞ A bunch of amateur group personal values mainly self-aggrandizing Obaba impositions.

If the answer is favorable to you, you are a good counselor, if it is unfavorable, you are a jerk-off.
If that's the case, why didn't you consult with them in the first place?
You are just a complainer.

• 悩まない性格に改革
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 09:39
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Counselor's Counselor

Some counselors also become depressed or emotionally unstable after repeated consultations, so it is important to be discerning. I don't think they have bad intentions because it is their job. People are creatures that make mistakes, so sometimes forgiving others can save you. If you have a certain amount of tolerance without being too focused on what is right, you can make room for yourself and those around you.

On a personal note, I try to keep my distance from perfectionists and people who point out other people's mistakes. I can't afford to be so relaxed myself. I think it is essential to build a comfortable relationship with people in order to avoid worrying too much.

• 統計学
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 10:11
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＞ Ultimately, most of our problems are human relations.

In every age, the most common human problems are money ・ health ・ family ・ and relationships.
A fortune teller who is a good businessman will instantly sense the problems of the client and manipulate the client's mind to get money out of the client.

• 無料相談なのに
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 10:18
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＞ A bunch of amateur group personal values mainly imposed by self-aggrandizing Obaba.

Wow, that's terrible.
Counselors are human beings, and if the counselors are offended, their answers will be appropriate.

• は？
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 10:20
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Health concerns are for doctors, not counselors.

• 悩まない性格に改革
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 10:28
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Unfortunately, weak people are easily taken advantage of by scams, so it is dangerous to consult with unknown people in a free consultation.

However, I think it is also rude to be suspicious of money-making and scams from the beginning. But I think it's also rude to be suspicious of them as a scam or a money-making scheme from the start. And those who do it for free are most likely helping others. You should be grateful for their kindness.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 10:31
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It is unprofessional to have a lax attitude because the clients are not pleasant. Counselors can be irritable or angry because people come to them in emotional distress. Counseling them emotionally is unprofessional. Counselors can change a person's future, you know.
By the way, I said I am a free counselor, not a qualified one, I am a volunteer. Maybe a few hours of training and it's easy for anyone here to become one. Therefore, it is personal and subjective, and as there are many opinions here, the answers may reflect personal thoughts, values, and even religious beliefs. Some may just say that they are dependable, and I think they continue to be because of homesickness and demand. I think she is just fine to talk to, but the person I called talked endlessly about her opinions, although she would listen to our opinions to a point. That said, advice, advice to avoid repeating my mistake.
#16 Opinions are professional and I learned a lot.

• あのね
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 10:36
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You, read this

＞ And most people who do this for free are probably helping others. You should be grateful for their kindness first of all.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 10:39
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#24 You don't know how a counselor thinks or approaches things until you meet and talk with them, so your answer of "then don't go" is not on target. As was mentioned earlier, it may take many people until you find a counselor that you are comfortable with. I do not need a counselor anymore. Because there was no improvement. The counselor at the hospital didn't meet my personal needs either with pre-prepared questions. I know some people feel more comfortable by just talking, and those people are expensive and really are like lawyers if they don't have insurance, though I think those with insurance should give it a try.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 10:44
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Yes, but you would feel favor or trust if you were actually helped by the opinion. I was just answering your question as an individual. That's just the way it is in some cases. Feel free to do the rest.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 11:01
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I was grateful for the generosity, and that's what happened when I talked about and accepted things. It's not that I am not grateful, it's just that the choice that was recommended to me still casts a shadow over my life decades later. Maybe I made the wrong choice, I called there, in a time when I could not even speak English properly in the US. These people are not professionals. This was at a time when I was in an unfortunate situation in the US with no parents and no relatives. But even doctors, lawyers, etc. are professionals and make mistakes, and lawyers include cases where mistakes are made on purpose. I only posted this in the hope that there will be fewer life-changing events, even if they are not perfect, because I believe that there are drugs and surgeries that are wrong and change people's lives.

• 現実は
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 11:03
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People who always complain and whine. People who blame others for everything. These people are not going to be happy for the rest of their lives. In fact, if you have this kind of negative energy, people around you will leave in droves. Well, you may not even realize it.

• 悩まない性格に改革
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 11:06
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#30 Japanese descent

I certainly don't like the act of amateurs counseling people easily, but I think it is too harsh an opinion to hold the counselor responsible for your life.

I am sure you had an unpleasant experience in counseling, but it is only advice and the decision is yours to make. Not only counselors, but people and encounters can have a big impact on your life. But you are the one who chooses the people you meet. If your life is not going well, it is because of your own judgments, decisions, and actions. By shifting the blame to others, you are creating more problems.

Failures and unpleasant experiences are never wasted in a long life. It is easy to criticize others. However, I believe that by allowing others to make mistakes and failures, we give ourselves more room to make choices.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 11:07
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Most people who volunteer for free are doing it for themselves, not to help others. In some cases, it is helping others. I think there are many different personal reasons to contribute to society. I think volunteering is necessary. Because being a counselor is not like getting food from a food bank.

• w
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 11:14
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Cramer W.

• おい
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 11:17
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＞ Most people who volunteer for free are doing it for themselves, not to help others.

Assumptions, assumptions, delusions.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 11:19
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It's not that it's offensive, it's that you made a mistake by respecting their opinion and going in that direction. You can take your parents' opinion and end up in the wrong life. So, if you don't know right from left in America, listen to the opinions of various people. I am telling you this because I stubbornly followed their opinions and that's how it turned out. I think the person who gave me the advice also did so because he thought it was the right thing to do, without any other intention. It just seemed quite forceful.
Since I think you guys have the best opinion. I thought it would be nice to be around respectful people who are not perfect, who don't bother you one way or the other, and who can be considerate of each other. Well, as with friendships, it is probably easier for people to take advantage of others. You should use free services if you can appreciate them.

• 悩まない性格に改革
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 11:20
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Most people who volunteer for free are doing it for themselves, not to help others.

You have a point. I used to know someone who counseled people and I actually didn't ask him to start counseling, he counseled me on his own even though we were just making small talk.

As we were talking, I felt that the person was actually mentally ill. People who are afflicted at that time start to deliberately put things on the agenda that they shouldn't be afflicted with, and start to seek this and that.

I am the kind of person who gives up immediately on things that are out of my control, so I could not understand why she was complicating matters so much, but she was very lively as she was searching and talking about this and that for me.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 11:22
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I feel that the moment a person who is volunteering thinks they are doing it for others, they are no longer volunteering. I think it is difficult for counselors.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 11:29
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These were some of the comments.
Volunteering helps those who are less fortunate in some way, and through that I feel that there is something self-developing about it. Later, some people do it for the honor. Others like to tell people off or teach them.
These days, the motives are too impure, such as to meet new friends or to observe people in their spare time. Of course, I don't specify such things in the question section, but I write that it is for helping people. Sorry for being cynical, but this is part of the reality.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 13:37
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That's about the only volunteer work I do, I give food to food banks and churches. I am not qualified to be a counselor, and I am not saying that I am great because I am qualified. I don't want to be a volunteer counselor for the above reasons.
I'm just writing about my own experience and it's an opinion, the same as that critique of where the food is good, bad, or popular
. People like you who want to talk and respect volunteer counselors should just go. Volunteering is the result of doing it for yourself and contributing to others through the action.
I don't do it just for others. Infectious, you are the asshole. I don't want to deal with you, so please have your fool fool fool battle with someone at that level.

• ウケる
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 13:58
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Apparently there are customers who get upset when they don't like the fortune teller's answers, and apparently the person above is on a par with them.

• 謝罪が必要
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 17:23
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Just because you received counseling a long time ago and were offended by an answer you didn't like, it is wrong to still hold onto it
and dic the counseling at Little Tokyo Service Center, which is still active and free of charge all the time.

• 日系
• 2021/01/27 (Wed) 18:19
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Are they volunteer counselors ？ I volunteer, and if they say things like crappy food, bad volunteer lady feeling, etc., I don't call them stupid or abusive. I think they should fix what is wrong and if it needs to be improved, they should do so. You are off on that a lot, like apologizing for it. Some stores turn complaints into positives, though. I was just giving my opinion. You like to stir things up. Do you all enjoy making claims to that extent ？
If you think it's so good, go ahead and use it. The statement was a little different, and I think it depends on the person, it has changed a lot, compared to back then. If you apologize. I don't deserve to be told that much. It would be terrible if someone like you counseled me.

• もしかしてだけど〜♪
• 2021/01/28 (Thu) 08:38
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The guy at the lockdown who told the restaurant business to give out free lunches to the elderly ？ w

• 反省
• 2021/01/29 (Fri) 08:01
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The fact that so many responses have been erased shows that there are many rotten people in this exchange square who are low-brained and attack others absurdly, make fun of them, and eventually demand apologies through their own opinions.
It is now on the information square of the Japanese-affiliated counseling center. If you need help, just give them a call. They are willing to talk to you about anything. You can also tell them that you are demanding an apology.

You are so low-brow and embarrassing that you use a fortune teller as an analogy for free counseling.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2021/01/29 (Fri) 09:21
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＃ I'm demanding an apology, but you could talk to them. First they will ask you a question about your apology request.

• だから
• 2021/01/29 (Fri) 16:35
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Please go on and on and state the facts of the situation down the road and get heard. #50 Mr.