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• Aloha
• 2024/05/19 (Sun) 18:52
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Hello, I have been living here for almost 20 years and it seems that friends come and go.
Everyone is busy living here in Hawaii and the small Japanese community. I feel that some people don't dare to make friends.
It's like a shallow relationship.
I think it would be good to make up some hobbies and look for people with similar interests. You can't make friends by sitting around waiting, you have to take action. Don't worry, you will make friends.

• コオリ
• 2024/05/20 (Mon) 02:02
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Thank you to all who responded, including those who emailed me personally.
I thought my personality was the problem, so your sympathy ・ and encouragement made me feel better
When I first came to Hawaii, every Japanese person I met asked me why I came to Hawaii ？ what is your visa ？ are you married ？ do you have a boyfriend I remember when I first came to Hawaii, I was so fed up with being asked the same questions that I avoided joining the Japanese community willingly. I had little chance to meet other people...
Recently, I invited a friend for lunch, but I couldn't contact her because her phone number had changed. I was a little shocked. The last time I texted her was this past February. I have known her for a long time, but I see her only a few times a year, and she changes her phone number from time to time, so I may hear from her again that her number has changed, but I have no other way to contact her because she is not Japanese and does not use LINE or Facebook. I am really disappointed because I wanted to refresh myself with lunch after a long time.
Friends from school days are really important ！ I would like to teach my children to meet many wonderful people during their school days. I don't have any hobbies from now on, so I think I found something for myself.

• マハロ
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• 2024/05/20 (Mon) 10:55
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I moved here 10 years ago from the mainland U.S. When my children were young, I mainly socialized with my mom's friends, but there were few people I really got along with that well, and after my children left Hawaii for college, I almost stopped socializing with them.
I don't have any interesting topics of conversation with the friends I have met personally, so we meet a few times a year to report on what's going on. However, I have become very close with friends I have met through my hobbies, and my circle of friends has expanded to include other hobbies as well, and I am now living a very fulfilling life. Of course, my friends are not only Japanese, but people of various origins.
As Aloha said, when you think about what you will do after you finish raising your children, it will be very enjoyable to have friends with whom you can enjoy what you like and what you like to do.

• ラニ
• 2024/05/23 (Thu) 14:08
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I have lived here for over 20 years. I don't have any particular friends.
On my days off, I drive around with my husband and the dogs. I have a friend at work and we talk a lot, but I don't go out with him in private.
When my child was just born, there were several people in my company who had small children, so we sometimes went to the beach together on our days off, or got together for birthday parties, etc. But now there are only two people I contact occasionally. Some have gone back to Japan, and some have gone to the mainland.
If I grew up in Hawaii and went to school in Hawaii, I would have some friends, but
I came here as an adult, and I thought it was just like that. lol
I don't think they have bad personalities or anything ！.

• コオリ
• 2024/05/24 (Fri) 02:35
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Thank you all for your warm comments and encouragement ！
I probably wouldn't have any friends even if I lived in Japan, but thanks to Vivinavi and everyone for this opportunity to talk here ！.