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• せいた
• 2022/05/10 (Tue) 01:22
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I asked the question because I wondered if it was OK to manage the account alone because "I don't trust you".
As #11 said, if the other party doesn't trust you, it makes sense that they would want to manage the account alone.

> Wouldn't it be stifling if they did that during a time when you can only do housework on a spouse visa and only earn money from other under-tables ？
Did you return home temporarily during a time when you could only do housework(主は稼ぎがない)?
Even though he was earning money under-the-table, was the account managed by the husband alone? If the former, then the account was managed by the husband alone, even though he was earning money at the under-table.
If the former, I would not be able to say that he was suffocating because he was not able to earn money himself but had to return to Japan.
If the latter, I am sorry for your feelings. In any case, if you are in a status where you can work now, just work and earn. After all, you are bringing up the past.
At that point, I think there is already dissatisfaction and problems between you and your wife before the management of the account.

• Yumi
• 2022/05/10 (Tue) 08:46
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All of my earnings were spent on leisure for the couple. Of course it was not such a large amount, so it was my way of thanking my husband for working for me. I am not asking if I am an untrustworthy person, but if I am untrustworthy, can I not touch the common part of our marriage?

Can't I ask questions if it's in the past ？

Yes, I'm asking because I'm unhappy with our marriage.

I "only" ？ do housework ？ what do you consider housework?
Is it wrong for people who don't work to go back home temporarily ？ ？
I think it's a little bit misleading to say that.

• ドンマイ
• 2022/05/10 (Tue) 08:48
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If all you did was housework, what would they do to you ？
Wives who are zoned, please be careful!

• なんかね〜
• 2022/05/10 (Tue) 08:52
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There are people who look down on full-time housewives because they themselves work, but there are also people who do not take it for granted that they have to work because their husbands are transferred. I don't think it is better to work and receive a salary, but I feel that an environment that does not respect mothers raising children is the starting point of Japan's declining birthrate problem.

• 空気
• 2022/05/10 (Tue) 09:00
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I can't back this guy up if I don't know what he's saying
housewives who don't work go home at least once a year as a matter of course
I don't know if it's a bone vacation or what ？ he probably thinks so too why are you going home now?